Ever notice how, when we over-react to something, we create our own suffering? The good news is that we can learn how to identify these fallacies in our thinking and shift them to a more mindful, truthful reality.
The following are some cognitive distortions that are at the root of anxiety based on the work of CBT pioneers Aaron Beck and David Burns:
1. ALL-OR-NOTHING THINKING: You see things in black-and-white categories. If you make a mistake, you might think that you “failed” or are a “failure.”
2. OVERGENERALIZATION: You generalize from a specific. You think in absolutes, like always and never, and see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern.
3. MENTAL FILTER: You pick out a single negative event and dwell on it, like a drop of ink that discolors a whole glass of water.
4. MAGNIFICATION or MINIMIZATION: You either blow things out of proportion or deny that something is a problem when it is. Examples: “I am the worst mother ever” or “It’s nothing—no big deal” (when it really is a big deal to you).
5. “SHOULD” STATEMENTS: You have preconceived ideas about how you and other people “should” be. Judgmental and unforgiving expectations create a lot of anxiety.
6. PERSONALIZATION: You are self-conscious and think things are about you when that is just your interpretation. When someone behaves negatively, you think that that behavior is a response to you, and then blame yourself.
7. PLAYING THE COMPARISON GAME: You compare yourself to oth- ers and feel the need to keep up with or outshine others to feel good about yourself. Example: “He is so much smarter than me; I’m stu- pid.”
8. FORTUNE TELLING: You think that you can predict the future, and you convince yourself that bad things will happen. Example: “I will always have these problems!”
9. LABELING: You label yourself or others by terms such as lazy, fat, stupid, loser, and jerk, stating them as if they were facts. A label becomes an erroneous evaluation of self-worth.
1. Write some examples of your own anxiety-producing thoughts
in the left column.
2. In the right-hand column, identify the types of distor- tions for each thought.
Example: I am a loser and always will be
Labeling, fortune telling, all-or- nothing thinking
stay with it…
Perhaps true power is internal intimacy with each subtle sensation, without shutting down, no matter how uncomfortable, pushing the capacity to be with pain or pleasure.
Every story I make up to define my situation takes me out of connection,
but being with all sensation and the Is-ness of experience keeps me tender & With.
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The heart is an infinitely powerful alchemist. There is nothing that cannot be transformed in its flame. In this love, demons melt into angels. Whatever pain you hold, take it to the fire, on the altar of your heart. Keep a flame alive to illuminate it, to dance it, to breathe life into it, to hold it, welcome it, to See it, to midwife it back to its original home of love, where all things are born. We are this fire. We are this light.
No matter what chaos or lostness you find in this Garden, put on shamanic eyes so you can See. Everything is here- for you, for us. Beyond right and wrong, good or bad is the middle world between what seems to be, where the Is-ness lives.
Here, you can see with Spirit Eyes.
Here, the dance of nature can be truly seen, with the eyes of the heart, and be loved, awesome, embraced, understood.
Be the gardener who reaps into its Being the fruits of its textures, colors, patterns and form. Who breathes with it.
Be the gardener who courageously touches the dynamic and formless nature of the Is-ness, in order to create within it.
The one who unconditionally loves the Garden will find gifts in all that Is and will find magic where there once appeared to be none.
This is alchemy.
This is living intimately, honestly, with the Garden that is your lifeline, your child, your lover, your most intimate friend. The giver of life-source. We cannot turn away from it.
Somadi Spiritual Embodiment Classes will resume in the fall. Meanwhile, Liz Janowski, Malaine Snow and I have created a temple called “Haven’ at which I will be teaching as well as many other guest teachers and speakers. We will be offering a blend of potent, powerful and fascinating classes to help you become increasingly empowered and expanded. From energy healing classes to prayer circles to yoni steams and movement classes, we will have a variety of experiences available.
If you are interested in classes for Haven or Somadi please join this group or under the Somadi page by “liked” you can select Following>SeeFirst to get notifications for our events.
I’m offering classes for SOMADI (co-ed) as well as my business for women’s classes, HAVEN.
Somadi class group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/somadi
Haven class group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/havenwomenstemple/
Somadi Spiritual Embodiment classes will resume in the fall:
In this group we will be practicing the skills you’ve learned in your energy healing sessions with me at Somadi- but taking them to the next level in a group field. This is a spiritual awakening program.
Each evening will have a specific theme including:
-Grounding, Centering & Clearing
-Awakening the Light Body
-Dissolving Control Grids & Unbinding Free Energy
-How to Transform Stuck Emotions
-The Essential Self
-Energetic Boundaries and Protection
-Awakening from the Dream of Suffering
-Activating your True Voice
-Connecting to your Guides
-Transforming Core Beliefs
-The 7 Chakras
Drop-ins welcome (for now)
1st and 3rd Thursdays at 7-8:30 (except for May 3rd- we will be meeting on Wed the 2nd instead)
Suggested donation of $10- $20
I’ll be able to accept PayPal
Cash, or check- just not credit cards.
The location of the event is at the Sanitas House, a private residence.
Parking is on the street, not the driveway. Please bring a meditation cushion if you have one and a pen and notebook:)
See the event page here:
Hi guys! I just recorded this meditation for us. When we have vows, cords, hooks, earthbound spirits, entities or foreign energy in our energy fields we could feel tired, unusually negative, depressed, angry or hopeless. We have the power to remove these energies, which are always partly self-created, back to the light to be transmuted. As we fill any holes or wounds that would allow negative energies into our field and heal them in light and love, we embody more of our divine selves. Enjoy!
“Quiet friend who has come so far,
feel how your breathing makes more space around you.
Let this darkness be a bell tower
and you the bell. As you ring,
what batters you becomes your strength.
Move back and forth into the change.
What is it like, such intensity of pain?
If the drink is bitter, turn yourself to wine.
In this uncontainable night,
be the mystery at the crossroads of your senses,
the meaning discovered there.
And if the world has ceased to hear you,
say to the silent earth: I flow.
To the rushing water, speak: I am.”
Rilke, Sonnets to Orpheus II, 29
God speaks to each of us as he makes us,
then walks with us silently out of the night.
These are the words we dimly hear:
You, sent out beyond your recall,
go to the limits of your longing.
Flare up like a flame
and make big shadows I can move in.
Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror.
Just keep going. No feeling is final.
Don’t let yourself lose me.
Nearby is the country they call life.
You will know it by its seriousness.
Give me your hand.
Book of Hours, I 59
Willing to experience aloneness,
I discover connection everywhere;
Turning to face my fear,
I meet the warrior who lives within;
Opening to my loss,
I gain the embrace of the universe;
Surrendering into emptiness,
I find fullness without end.
Each condition I flee from pursues me,
Each condition I welcome transforms me
And becomes itself transformed
Into its radiant jewel-like essence.
I bow to the one who has made it so,
Who has crafted this Master Game;
To play it is purest delight;
To honor its form — true devotion.